A woman has shared a stunning story telling how she managed to escape being infected by HIV from her own husband.
The woman shared her story with online readers, explaining that
although she had s*x with her husband who was HIV positive, she didn't
contract the disease.
Below is how she put it:
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Before my husband and I started dating, we had been good friends for about 2 years,
Then we started seeing each other and one thing led to another and
we started having s*x. It was great and we were really in love with each
other. Then he proposed to me, and of course, I said yes. This was in
2008. We got married that year.
My church requests would-be-couples to do medical screening and
pregnancy test before you can be married. We did this and everything was
fine, or so I thought. And behold two months after marriage, hubby
became very sick and had to be admitted for about 2 months. Diagnosis
showed HIV positive. My whole world fell apart, I did my own testing but
came out negative.
I went alone to the doctor to ask my troubling questions, and tell
him that we did the test together about 4 months back and we were
negative, the doctor said either he just got infected or it was a false
negative (maybe he was in his window period at the time). It was
heartbreaking. We kept all this from family because believe me, the
stigmatization of HIV is real.
And I was really shocked that he could be HIV positive and I was not even though we had had s*x many times.
My husband on the other hand didn’t believe it one bit, he said he
is not HIV positive that something is wrong, that he is sure of himself.
My husband is a very knowledgeable person and well read. We talked
about it for many days and at the end of the day, a part of me believed
that indeed maybe it is spiritual. Why am I then negative? Why 2 months
after our successful wedding? Maybe it is just a temptation. What do I
do now? Who do I talk to that will not laugh at me. Only God. I put
everything in the hands of God, and started praying harder than before.
He became well and resumed work to the glory of God. He kept saying
he didn’t cheat on me and he didn’t have HIV. I even begged him to tell
me the truth, that I will stand with him no matter what. I was so hurt
that I told myself I will never have s*x with him again. He respected
it, he respects me so much. He was a good man.
Then one day I was so horny, I couldnt bear it anymore, I went to
buy a pack of condoms after talking to my doctor. We started making love
with condoms. But there were few times, body no be firewood, before I
could can pick a condom from the bedside drawer, we would make love
without it. This was our marriage for 3 years.
Hmmn, then in 2011, hubby became sick again. He was adamant to go
to the hospital, he said he was tired of doctors telling him he has HIV
when he knows he didn’t. I talked and talked. Hubby’s family thought I
was a bad woman and I wasn’t taking good care of him. He went from
cough, to rashes, to pneumonia and eventually to death. I though the
pressure of running around prevented my period from showing for up to 4
months. I didnt know I was pregnant. The last time we made love before
he got sick was when I conceived. Hubby died when I was 6 months
pregnant. He knew he was going to be a father. All my ante-natal
screening was negative to HIV. I had our son vaginally 3 months after he
died, a healthy baby in 2011 (4years now). I am telling this story to
those women who think HIV (or any STD) is for some people or status, to
marry God fearing men who would not jeopardize your future for few
seconds of pleasure.
I have been there and have experienced it first hand. By Gods
grace, I am working and can provide basic needs for my son and I. 4
years gone by, and it is still hard to trust another man. Like my doctor
said, I was one of the lucky ones, I came out unscathed.
Do not cheat or condone cheating. Staying with a cheat is like been
in the war front, it’s only a matter of time. You deserve better. We
all deserve better. God bless you
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