A marriage counselor has given a rather stunning advice to all couples who have a desire to make the marriage work out.
The Marriage Counsellor, Frank Adofoli from Ghana, wrote an interesting piece stating why husbands need girlfriends.
Below what he wrote:
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Yes, every husband needs a girlfriend, not another woman but the girl part of the wife he once fell in love with.
You may buy a new lock made of steel, with its keys. The key
doesn’t spoil the lock nor vice versa but over the years, the
environment and factors such as dirt, rain, change in weather, etc may
cause the lock to rust. So its important to oil and maintain it.
A similar fate occurs in our relationships. You get married to that
young, fun, adventurous girlfriend. As time goes on, most ladies assume
that once they earn the title of a wife, no more work is required. It
even gets worse when she starts bearing children.
That thought is a lie, Marriage is work dear. You will need to work
on your marriage. Remember the things he first fell in love with,
things about you that captured his heart and attracted him like a
magnet; what did this man see in you?
Are you still doing those things, how is the fun in the marriage?
What is he complaining about? Do you see him chatting with other ladies,
trying to look elsewhere? It’s time to work on yourself. Your husband
is wrong to look elsewhere, and you have the power to keep him home.
Exercise regularly, lose the excess weight and eat healthy. Inside
beauty is not enough, external beauty is important, maintain what God
gave you. Don't let marriage makes you look older than your age.
Dirt and uncleanliness is a common killer of intimacy in marriage.
Some wives are too lazy to keep their surroundings organized and clean.
The presence of children in your marriage should not kill your
romance or intimacy. Remember how many times you bath a day when you
were going on a date? how fresh and clean you looked?. If you can keep
your home and yourself like that, you will bring back the intimacy.
When was the last time you sent that cute sms? When was the last
time you had that candle light dinner? When was last time you
appreciated your partner’s efforts? How is your s*x life? Most couples
crave for s*x when dating but turn their bedroom into courtroom when
married, it’s time to go back!
Don’t let your actions part God’s union as Matthew 19:6 (ESV) cautions "So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
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